Ah, the holidays: a gathering of family and friends, a celebration, and a time of year to eat, drink and be nosy merry.
If your Facebook status recently moved from “In a relationship” to “Engaged,” it’s going to be the topic that titillates every conversation from the Thanksgiving feast to the New Year’s brunch, and for a good reason—it’s an exciting time for you and for all the people you love! Weddings are some of life’s finest celebrations, and your loved ones are eager to join the party.
Remember that for some relatives, your upcoming nuptials will be the easiest go-to for small talk and polite conversation while other family members are just dying to live vicariously through you (especially if they’re teenagers who long to be a bride one day or older women who love to reminisce about their own special days).
We know that the last thing you want to deal with is a future step-mother-in-law—who may or may not have downed one too many mimosas—grilling you about how she and all of her family members are going to be included in the bridal party and offering her (unsolicited) opinion on having children at the wedding. And we know that just like the holidays themselves, weddings can bring out the worst in people just as easily as they can bring out the best. Seemingly innocuous questions can cause galactic-level drama in some families, so only answer what you feel comfortable answering, and when in doubt, follow our tips below.
It all depends on how close your wedding date is to the holiday in question—it will be far less challenging to answer questions about a wedding date a year away than it will be for a ceremony taking place in March.
Here are a few other tips to keep in your back pocket—better yet, just keep this link bookmarked on your phone to pull up when the need arises!
You can be firm and kind at the same time.
This is the truth! You can always say, “You know, thanks for asking, but I’m so tired of talking about wedding plans—tell me what’s new with you.”
You might be feeling all kinds of feelings yourself at the holidays and just might not want to talk about dresses and caterers, so don’t feel like you have to give the journalistic play-by-play of your wedding plans. Excuse yourself to use the restroom or get something to drink.
If you’ve got some time between your wedding date and the holiday at hand, simply tell your Aunt Martha that you haven’t finished finalizing the plans or details yet or relate how you’d like to keep some of the details a surprise.
Written by C. Farley for Bridalosophy
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